UUUGGGHHH!!!!! Nobody likes housework. But thats something we all have to do as mothers. I dont expect my husband to do it after coming home from a full day of work either. He loves to come home to a clean house. Im the one here, so I should do it, right? Yep. Although our boys do help. We will discuss that in a minute. Also, however, my husband does pitch in and help alot just because he loves me.
I know what the Bible says: Ecclesiastes 9:10 What so ever thy hand findeth to do, do it with all thy might……..and Philippians 2:14 Do all things without murmurings and complaining. I really have to think about these two verses. I have to keep repeating them so I can get motivated. I always tell my kids, “Let’s just get it over and done with so we can play!” I dread things just like a child does, we all do, I just have to push myself sometimes.
I borrowed a post from one of my friends the other day on facebook. I love it:
Dirty dishes prove I feed my family, full trash can means I clean up after our messes, messy floors mean I let my kids have fun, pile of unfolded laundry means I keep my family in clean clothes, wet bathroom means I bathe them! So the next time you walk into my house and see a “mess” think twice before you judge. If you come over to see us, come on in…if your coming over to see my house please make an appointment.
I really dont know how women got things done before some of these modern inventions came along. Dont you know they had some long days, and just fell out when they went to bed? Its especially hard when your on the go all the time. Our hardest time is when football season is going on. Then we just have to find the time. I can get my chores done while they are at school, but they really have to find the time to do theirs. Sometimes its on Saturdays.
My home is not that big, so that helps. Sometimes I will do one room a day, sometimes a chore a day. For ex. One day I will do our bedroom. I will dust corners, nicks and crannies. Dust furniture, move furniture and vacuum. Dust blinds, ceiling fans, etc. I like to wet dust, with a damp cloth, to me this grabs the dust and gets rid of it. I hardly ever use furniture polish. This lets me get everything thing done thoroughly in one room at a time. Or, I will dust the whole house one day and the next day I will vacuum the whole house. Some times I switch it up just to keep from getting bored.
Everyone is usually good at picking up after themselves. Well, me and hubby are anyway. We have to keep repeating ourselves where the boys are concerned. Maybe one day it will sink in. Until then, Ill just keep reminding.
As far as my laundry goes. I have learned you can wash everything together in cold water and they still turn out fine. Everyone puts their dirty clothes in the washing machine at night, and the next morning I turn on the washing machine. However, I do hold out towels and rags and wash them separately because after they sit while wet, they get a mildewey smell. I take care of this by putting bleach in the little whole in the corner of the top of the machine, where it says “bleach”. This way I wash a small load everyday instead of sorting through multiple loads and washing and drying all in one day. When they are dry, I like to get them out of the dryer asap, this cuts down on ironing. However, there are times when the laundry gets overloaded such as when they have had extra curricular activities like football and karate that they take showers again when they get home. They can either put their laundry in the appropriate baskets in the laundry room or their laundry baskets in their rooms. Our oldest is quite older now and when his basket gets full he automatically takes his to the laundry room and washes his clothes. The youngest we still have to keep reminding him til it sinks in. He will eventually be able to do the same. He does good now by helping with the laundry.
Everyone puts their own laundry away. I usually put mine and husbands away for him. If I need help with laundry, while I am busy doing something else in the house, the boys will help. I have taught the boys how to do laundry so they will not bring home theirs when they go off to college. lol. Although they will still probably try to. You will not believe how many college kids do not know how to do laundry or even cook simple little items for themselves. Even Dakota can cook a few simple things for himself.
It is ashame that the mother didnt take time to educate her children to get them ready for when they go out into the real world. Girls are not the only ones who need to learn these skills as to be a good wife. Boys need to learn too because they may go off to college before they get married. So this will benefit them. Also if their wife ever gets sick and he has to take on some chores for her.
A few little tricks for the laundry. You can use vinegar as a fabric softner. I purchased one little downy ball and use it all the time and put vinegar in it and throw it in. Some people who are allergic to detergents and fabric softners, can benefit from this. Sometimes fabric softner sheets can be used a second time. If the sheet comes out and it is still stiff, you can use it again. You can also save money by cutting a sheet in half for a load, it works the same, I have done it.When I have time, in the summer I do like to wash a load of towels or sheets and hang them on the line, there is nothing like lying on a crisp fresh smelling set of sheets. MMMMMMM.
Even Dallas can do a little laundry. I had to resist the temptation to give him a little shove. hahahaha. Dont worry he has never been locked in the washer or dryer.
As far as the bathroom goes. This is something I like to do and Im trying to drill it in the boys heads. When you get out of the shower, spray some cleaner on the walls of the shower when it is wet, and let it sit. When its time time to clean, it should clean really easily. Makes the bathroom smell nice in between cleanings too. Take the time to just wet a rag and wipe the toilet down after using the bathroom. You can even keep some bleach wipes on the back of the toilet where they are handy and do a quick wipe down between cleanings. When I get done brushing my teeth, I will take my towel or a rag and wipe my mirror, sink, faucet and counters down. This will help keep things looking nice until its time to really clean and scrub the bathroom. Every once in a while, I take down the shower curtains and wash them, I have washable curtains. I dont like the plastic ones that rip and get moldy. I would rather spend the extra money and get one that lasts.
Im not a big fan of dishes. I love my dish washer. Sometimes I get a little lazy and will let a few dishes sit in the sink until the next load. I know you can use vinegar as a rinse agent instead of the ones you buy. You can also use baking soda as a prewash to help loosen food particles. I try to keep my dishwasher maintained by once in a while I will just run a small wash cycle with the washer empty,no dishes in it, with a little bleach. When everyone gets done with a dish, they rinse it out and puts it in the dish washer then. Unless I am washing a load already at the moment. Then they will put it in the sink, and it will go in the next load. The boys have unloaded and put away dishes too. If you dont have a dishwasher, wash your dishes as you mess them up while cooking supper or preparing any food. This is another chore you can appoint to children to teach responsibility. Before we got our dishwasher, Dakota would wash and rinse and Dallas would dry and put away.
It is up to us to teach our children how to do chores. Yep, the Bible teaches this. Look it up! They need to learn responsibility because Momma can not follow them to college and do this for them. They can learn at an early age. As soon as they can learn, around 2 or 3 they can learn simple chores. My boys were taught how to make their bed at 3. Was it military perfect, no, but they were learning. As they grow they get better. My boys hate how I clean house. The rule is, If its not done right the first time, they will do it again. Yes, they have spent many a times doing something over again, because they just wanted to hurry and get done. I tell Dakota if hes vacuuming, go against the grain and then with the grain. He cant stand that, but thats how I want it done. When he gets his own home, he can make his own rules.
To help the boys remember, I made them a chore chart.Do they act like they cant read, Yep! I think they do this just to aggravate me. So, I have to remind them. lol I even made them one for the bathroom.
One for their bedroom too A bedtime routine chart went in their bathroom too. These came in handy when they were younger since they didn’t like me repeating myself all the time lol
The boys are responsible for their rooms. They know it is to be done right the first time. If I come in and check, and I still see dust , they do it again.If they have company come over, if company helps mess up, company helps clean up. This is only fair, it would not be right if my children went to their home and messed up and not help clean up. When all the cleaning is done, then they can play…..
They love that part.
One more little quicky of mine is one day when Im just picking up around the house, I will have a basket. I’ll put things in it and disburse where it goes back to. This keeps you from making several trips back and forth. Alot of times I will grab something that needs to be done on my way through. Like, if I’m coming out of my bathroom, I’ll grab the trash on my way to the kitchen and empty it. Then when I’m going back to my bathroom, I’ll grab my trash can and take it back. Then I’m not meeting myself going back and forth.
Taking care of your home can take team work. Be sure to reward hard work too, especially small children. Well, occasionally the biggest kid (husband) too. lol
I want to go into more detail about starting out with little ones to teach responsibility. Toddlers can learn too. Believe it or not they like to imitate mommy and do what she’s doing. Chores should be taught according to age. What ever you feel like your child is capable of then start them out in it. Make it fun too like playing music or make a game out of it. As they get older raise the bar on the chores and challenge them. Always remember to reward. When ours were little we use to give them a marble for every chore they did. They got paid once a week. They would store their marbles in their lock boxes and at the end of the week they would bring them to us and cash them in. One marble was worth 25 cents. Yes, I had cheap kids. Lol. They figured out the more chores you do the more money you make. Fast forward to now and they still get rewarded. Our oldest earned gas money and spending money for mowing and weedeating the property. The youngest helped me with things and for daddy. He gets an allowance. If he doesn’t get an allowance he can pick something he wants to do and we all enjoy it like pizza and a movie or going to the movies or going out to eat. Now the oldest is graduated from high school and had a regular job out in society so he works full time. He may not get to help at home like he did when he was younger but he is still responsible for his room and his part in their bathroom. The youngest has stepped up to the plate and took on his chores.
If there is a problem of laziness or rebellious they soon found out what consequences were. If you don’t do your part, you get no free time, play time, no company over, no rewards. They don’t like being bored so this is good motivation. Our sons are now 18 and 13 and they have good work ethics. This is why you teach them when their young, someone has to be around them in society. I refuse to raise lazy children and send them out in the world. It doesn’t say much for me as a mother. I want their bosses to brag on them and see their work ethics. I see enough of lazy adults out there as it is and it’s ashame. I see a generation of spoiled kids who are thinking they are owed something and rely on everyone else and cannot help themselves. There is no excuse for laziness. Ok, I didn’t mean to get on a soap box. This is why we do what we do. The Bible says if a man don’t work he ought not eat. Well I don’t want to go hungry nor do I want my kids to go hungry.
I have all kinds of more great ideas for housekeeping and homemaking, etc on my Self Suffecient Page. There just randomly posted so just take your time and scroll.