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Its up to us to find joy in our roles as women, wives, mothers, teachers, homemakers, etc.
I count it a great honor and a privilege to be a wife, mother, and homemaker in 2011. It is with great joy that I let others know I am my husbands wife, so much so that I sign my name Mrs. David Dixon.
I love being Mr. Dixon’s helper and keeper of his home. While I am home taking care of his children, trying to give them a good education, doing their laundry, fixing their meals, etc., Mr. Dixon is working very hard to provide for the needs of our family, both physically and spiritually. This is the least that I can do to show him my appreciation.
When we married I chose to take his name, as most women do. However, some women like to keep their maiden name. Some women feel like they are losing their identity by taking a mans name. Rather, I count it a privilege and honor to take the name of my beloved and use it for my own.
Proverbs 31:27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
Titus 3:4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
5- To be discreet, chaste, keepers of the home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
My grandmother was the saint in this department. She dedicated her life to serving her family. She was the first one up, last to go to bed. She didnt rest until she knew everyone had or got what they needed. She was the last to eat because she was unselfish. She wanted to make sure everyone else had their fill before she ate, and to make sure there was enough to go around. My grandmother had no idea how much I “copied” her. I wanted so much to be like her growing up. And now, I’m exactly what I said I wanted to be. I am a homemaker. I never went to college cause they dont teach you how to be a Homemaker. I didn’t want any other profession. Do I struggle from day to day trying to be that Prov. 31 woman. You betcha!!!! In Ecclesiastes 9:10, it says Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with all thy might………ooooohhhh, my, am I in the mood every day top vacuum and dust, Nope, but I have to force myself to and motivate myself. With Gods help I can accomplish this then I can say Phillipians 2:14 Do all things without murmurings and complaining. Ouch!!!!
Im not saying you have to get up at the crack of dawn everyday, although, sometimes we do, to get everything accomplished. I know women who have 7 to 10 children and they get by just fine. Whew! I’d never be able to keep up. As a matter of fact I will leave buttons at the end of this page of websites of families who have a “shoe” full of children and how they manage their days.
We ladies have a high calling on us, to serve our families and I want to fulfill my service to the best of my ability. I want to hear God say, “Well done my good and faithful servant.” I know my grandmother glorified God in this.
There are days when I pretty much have things planned out and then wouldn’t you know something goes haywire. Some days go smooth and some days I just do what I want to when I want to. I’ve learned it’s not worth stressing over. However, my husband does like a clean house when he comes home. Since I have Rheumatoid Arthritis, some days are easier than others. I have good days and bad days and my husband understands this. Now, since I’m the homemaker, and I’m home all day, I should be the one doing this. There is no reason for him to come home after working 8 to sometimes 12 hr. days at his job to have to do anything when he comes home. Don’t get me wrong, a husband can pitch in and help when help is needed, but it is not his sole responsibility. He is in deed the bread winner and provider, he does his part. If there are days when I’m sick and can’t do anything, by all means he pitches in and helps, and to be honest he does it better than I do. He is a better cook I might add. lol
If there are children in the house that can walk and pretty much do some things, by all means teach them chores to do that is simple. Its not gonna hurt them any. I can remember making my own bed a 3 yrs old. I tried this on my own children and Wholah! it works. lol Children need to be taught responsibility and self discipline. If you don’t teach them now, they will be bringing you their dirty laundry from college cause they were never taught how to do it. And they will probably starve because no one taught them how to make simple dishes to fix for them selves and I’m not talking about microwave meals either. Set up chore charts for them and reward them for a job well done. Something simple. The hardest thing to teach them I guess is to pick up after themselves. This will have to be a constant reminder. Eventually one day it will sink in! lol Until it becomes a habit, I will have to keep repeating it, this is part of patience. You can visit my Housekeeping page to see how we handled our children in teaching them responsibility in the home.
Proverbs 31:26- She openeth her mouth with wisdom, and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
It is also my job to keep the home peaceful. My husband does not want to come home after working all day to arguing and fussing and everyone in cahoots. He wants to come home where it is peaceful and relaxing where he can unwind after a long day. If me and the kids are still having a bad day when he comes home, he sometimes will “retreat” to the bedroom and close the door until I have reconciled everything and brought “peace” in again. Some times this is hard. Nobody is going to be in the “same mood, on the same day, at the same time. ” This I have learned. When the lion can lay down beside the lamb, its ok to come out! lol
10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. 11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. 12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. 13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. 14 She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar. 15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. 16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. 17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. 18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. 19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff. 20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. 21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. 22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple. 23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land. 24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant. 25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. 26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. 27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. 28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. 29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. 30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. 31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
I know it is hard to follow this outstanding woman, but if it is the desire of your heart to be this woman God will equip you for this ministry. I have seen alot of lazy wives and girls and I pity them and the men who choose them. They will be very unhappy in their marriage and home I’m afraid. I pray for these women. I pray now for mothers who have daughters that they will gird themselves and teach their daughters to be good wives and mothers.Those of us who are already equipped make it a point to be a mentor to someone you see and help them. But most of all that the Lord will me to stay in his will and serve and be dedicated to my family.
I Timothy 5:14I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
Now, Let me guide you to some resourceful websites: dont forget to also check out the links on my home page, some may be repeated but thats ok with me.
Be sure to check out my Self Suffecient page for great ideas and quick how to’s from alot of great resources.
Here is a good article if your loosing your joy of homemaking.
Do you remember the excitement when you got your first place?
Did you spend time making it reflect you? Making sure it was comfortable and pretty?
Did you invite guest over to share in your home?
It’s kind of like falling in love… you have so many hopes and dreams of what this new phase of life will be like… you love working at it.
And then something happens…
more dishes to wash…
no one is grateful…
It is easy to loose the passion and the joy for our home.
You may loose your joy in homemaking because:
The busyness of life. You may have many demands on you and homemaking gets pushed to the bottom of the list of priorities.
The day-in day-out mundane tasks that no one notices seems to be work with no real reward. You no sooner finish cleaning up from one meal and your people are hungry AGAIN!
Your heart is seeking worldly desires that pull you away from a heart towards home. More fun… more money… more significance…
And probably the most common hindrance-
Hard Providences such as sickness, financial hardships, marital struggles or rebellious children can rob you of strength and desire to make home a pleasant and beautiful place. You may feel like it is no use to even try when life is unraveling around you.
And then there is pure, flat our laziness.
How to Find that Joy
- Pray, ask God for a clean heart and a renewed spirit. He is faithful to give abundantly.
- Stay in the Word. Read what God requires of women.
- Stay away magazines, blogs and movies that make a mockery of homemaking.
- Surround yourself with positive people.
- Find women that love their home and their family.
- Find women who use their home for good works.
- Stay away from social circles that encourage you to always be busy away from home as they look for the next best thing.
- Be sure you are teaching your children HOW to do things and do them well.
- Enlist help. Have a teen girl in once a week, or even once a month to help clean or organize, or maybe she can entertain the children while you clean. There is NO shame in hiring help if you need it – as long as YOU are doing YOUR duty!
- Keep your calendar and house clutter free! This is the biggest struggle.
- Find resources that will equip you, like my DVDs and this amazing bundle!
- Remember Who you work for. Do all things as unto the Lord. Even if no one else notices, God does. He knows your deepest thoughts and desires. You are building up your treasure in heaven where no rust or moth will destroy it.
Homemaking is a full time job, it is our duty.
Let me encourage you; you are building a HOME of brick, one little brick at a time.
MANY years later, with consistency and wisdom you will have a house – a home that will stand! Not only will this house stand, but it will provide shelter, food, rest, encouragement and love for you and all those who walk through the door.
You MAKING HOME will cause your adult children to want to come home after they are out on their own.
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